I came across a TedTalk this morning that discussed reframing mid-life as a chrysalis rather than a crisis. The discussion focused on the opportunities for change and growth in mid-life before the transition to retirement, when people become pollinators and spread knowledge. I like the metaphor, even if I struggle with the some. Like most metaphors, it misses some nuances. However, I do appreciate the idea of reframing the expectations and experiences of mid-life.
As a woman who is solidly mid-life, I have struggled with many aspects of this life stage. I have not been as attentive to my overall wellness and well-being as I would like. I have gained weight. The wrinkles are increasing. I don't earn as much as I would like.
On the other hand, I have completed a doctorate, earned two promotions in the past three years, and have found pursuits that I am truly passionate about. I find opportunities to facilitate joy. I have an incredible spouse and amazing friends.
This life stage has presented a number of challenges from Covid to my husband being diagnosed with cancer. It has also been filled with immense joy and gratification due largely to a commitment to really investing in experiences ranging from travel to volunteering.
This stage has had its chrysalis goo, but it has not been a time where I have been hidden away waiting for things to happen. As one season of this life stage is coming to a close, I am anxiously awaiting the full transition to the next season. A season in which I plan to invest in and advocate for myself by prioritizing my wellness and well-being, asking for what I am worth, and seeking opportunities to connect with and support others.
I definitely had a chrysalis season, but that season is over. The next season of the mid-life stage will be full of intention, celebration, and continued growth.
Link to TedTalk: https://www.ted.com/talks/chip_conley_an_alternative_to_the_midlife_crisis?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare
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